Today - Do it on the Sofa (not during the football, or Corrie tho......!!)

Him: Sit your man down on the sofa. His feet must touch the floor.

You: Sit on top of him, facing him. Show him who's in charge - take the lead. Lay back on his legs and support yourself on your arms to keep your balance. Open and close your thighs, setting the rhythm yourself.Why is it so good? You're in control. You decide the rhythm that works for you and discover what you like. You give him a very hot view of your body in action!

Tip: If he's well wedged into the backrest, he can hold your legs with one hand and caress your clit with the other.

Hello Hunnys!!

Sorry I have been away Darlings, but im back again now - in recompense have decided to post SEVERAL sex tips for you today....I hope you all had a good Easter......as ever.you know I love hearing from you, so please feel free to contact me hotwet666@hotmail.com if you have any queries or just fancy some chat..have a good evening......love Katy xx


SEX TIPS (LOTS!!!)

The Three Hottest Sex Positions:- The "hottest" sex positions are the best sex positions and allow both you and your partner to experience the greatest pleasure and come to an orgasm.

Men are often guilty of wanting to perform the kind of athletic, acrobatic, frequently-changing "sex position" style of intercourse they see in their favorite porn thinking that a woman will be impressed by their stamina and creativity, " THE STUD" whilst women are often guilty of going along with what the guy wants in hopes that he’s taken their pleasure into account as well. Hot Sex Positions vs. The Wrong Sex Positions

Great communication is the key to GREAT SEX - no doubt about it! And I’m not only going to lay the blame at men’s feet here, many women are still too shy and inhibited to speak up and tell the guy exactly what they need in order to feel pleasure and reach an orgasm during intercourse, often because they don’t really know.

With this in mind let’s take a look at the top three sex positions and look at how they can bring a woman greater pleasure.

Men if you find that it’s difficult to keep your erection while bringing a woman to orgasm first, than try bringing her close to an orgasm with your hand or orally first before beginning intercourse.

`Woman on Top` Sex Position
If you read men’s magazines the favorite positions in polls is “doggy style,” while in women’s magazine both men and women’s favorite position is “woman on top.” Since a large majority (60-85% depending on which poll you read) of women don’t orgasm from plain old intercourse alone I’m going to put the position that puts women in charge of what goes on first…and ladies you definitely need to step up to bat and learn how to be in the driver’s seat for this one. You KNOW what to do (if you dont, email me - hotwet666@hotmail.com and i'll happily give ya some pointers!!

Variations For Greater Pleasure
Some women don’t like to be “on top” because they feel the man gets to be too lazy and only has to lay back and watch the show. You can remedy this by having the man sit up against pillows so that it’s far easier to kiss (and fondle your breasts - a MAJOR erotic point ((well, for me it is!)) and the woman can feel more engaged with the man. The woman really does need to set the pace with this position since she’s the one with the greatest range of motion possible. If she needs greater clitoral stimulation than this position normally gives her she should arch forward and do more of a grinding motion that thrusting so that her clitoris will be rubbing up against the guys pubic bone. If she needs even more stimulation she should be brave and use her own fingers to stimulate herself while finding a rhythm that works for you both. The man can add even greater stimulation by caressing the sensitive undersides of her buttocks, or stroking her back door (make sure she’s well lubricated) or even inserting a finger into her anus (but ask permission first).

`Doggy Style` Sex Position
Men love this position because, well, it’s easy as pie and it allows us to gaze at a woman’s sexual plumbing. For many women it’s a favorite position because it can be great for “G-spot” stimulation, however, for many women men can thrust too deep and actually hit a woman’s cervix, which some women enjoy, but many find extremely painful.

Variations For Greater Pleasure
The key to successful “doggy style” intercourse again is communication. Just as the head of a man’s penis is the most sensitive, the first third of a woman’s vagina is the most sensitive and the “G-spot” isn’t down deep at the back, it’s on the front wall about a third of the way down (though it varies woman to woman) so you need to communicate with your lover to find the right thrust that works for her.
Also, the “G-spot” often needs a lot of stimulation before it “wakes up” so you need to either go down on a woman first orally and make sure she’s either had an orgasm already, or is pretty darn close, or you need to reach your hand around and give her plenty of clitoral stimulation at the same time to make sure she’s enjoying things the way you are.

The problem man and women have with “doggy style” is that it feels very impersonal. To make her feel more connected try a couple variations on the theme such as rear entry while you’re both on your knees, or standing, in front of a mirror so that there’s plenty of eye contact and you both get the visual stimulation of seeing exactly what’s going on – and guys don’t be lazy, unless a woman tells you otherwise, reach your hand around and give her clitoris the stimulation it needs. ` (I personally love standing bent over the bed with my partner standing behind me, entering me standing up - I love his hands on my hips - controlling the pace.....)

Missionary Style` Sex Position
Yes, the old standard is still a favorite for many couples because it’s one of the most intimate, but again this position only works for both parties with good communication.

Variations For Greater Pleasure
The CAT or coitus alignment technique is a way to make sure you’re lined up to give her clitoris the stimulation it needs to get its groove on. To get into position the man slides forward from his normal resting place so that the woman’s clitoris is receiving stimulation from the base of the man’s penis, also his legs should rest on the outside of her legs instead of the inside. Then rather than using a thrusting motion like you’d normally engage in the woman initiate a more gentle rocking motion, making sure her clitoris is getting the stimulation and contact it needs. The man should push down gently counter resisting the woman’s upward motion.

M has high sex drive -is that normal?

Interesting blog you have you certainly seem to know your stuff, how does someone come to have so much knowledge? it has taken me years of being a sex addict to learn some of the tricks and tips that you share, (now every man will know my secret)so maybe you can help me though?why do i want sex with loads of different women all of the time?that is the only question i want answering?m x

Dear M

Thanks for your input!! I have written sex advice for years and studied psychology so I have learnt a few things along the way....apart from all that though, since I was young I have been fascinated with sex and all the variables and forms that it takes........so I guess my hobby has literally turned into my passion!!

As for your question...... you arent alone, many, many men feel the need to have sex with different women all the time.........men are hardwired differently from women - women need to be loved and nurtured, to have the emotional side of their well being taken care of, whilst men are typically more concerned with procreation and (to put it bluntly!)"getting their rocks off". You guys are very physical creatures (thats not to say some of us women arent too!) and this is how you find release. Are you in a relationship at the moment? Do you find it hard to stay faithful to one person - those are questions that need answering more than the one you have asked! If you are not in a relationship and you stay faithful when you are, then I dont really see that you have a problem - as long, of course, as you USE A CONDOM and stay safe!

Kind regards,

Katy

Advice for Snooker

Hi there

I am a mid 50s guy with a lovely partner who is tired most of the time and not really interested in sex most of the time. We have been together for 16 years now and I am worried that I am becoming a sex addict and have been worried about this for a while and spend a lot of time of dodgy websites. How can I control myself?



Hi Snooker



Thank you for contacting me!



I guess the first thing I want to say (and this might sound obvious!) is have you spoken to your partner about her reduced sex drive? This could be caused by a myriad of things - anything from stress, to depression, or even the menopause.....try to get to the root of the problem with her.



I assume when you say "dodgy websites", you mean porn sites? Well, this is perfectly normal for many men - does your partner look at these sites with you, or is it something you do on your own, without her knowledge ( in which case, it it guilt that is making you worried?) How much time are you spending on these sites? Is it an hour a day (which is perfectly fine) - or is it starting to consume all your spare time?

I do feel from your email that you are worrying more than necessary - if you have a higher sex drive than you partner, then it is obvious that you are going to think about sex more than you might normally as your needs are not being met at the moment.

Have you tried giving her a cuddle and not pressuring her for more - just letting her know that you love her and making her feel wanted without the sex part - often when one partner wants sex and the other doesnt, it can lead to a vicious circle - man wants sex=woman doesnt=man asks for more sex=women feels pressured=woman wants even less sex!!

Please speak to your partner about your worries - communication is always the key!

If you need to talk some more, then please do not hesitate to contact me.....

All the best

Katy