My new website...

Hi everyone,

I am so sorry I have been away for a while - things have been a little crazy - i have been working in Germany and havent had time to catch my breath....

Anyway, im back now - please have a look at my new website http://hotwet666.webs.com theres much more to look at there and of course, I will keep you updated with your daily sex tip!! Ive even got a forum, if you wanna share with other like minded peeps out there.....

Ciao for now

Kat xxxxx

M has high sex drive -is that normal?

Interesting blog you have you certainly seem to know your stuff, how does someone come to have so much knowledge? it has taken me years of being a sex addict to learn some of the tricks and tips that you share, (now every man will know my secret)so maybe you can help me though?why do i want sex with loads of different women all of the time?that is the only question i want answering?m x

Dear M

Thanks for your input!! I have written sex advice for years and studied psychology so I have learnt a few things along the way....apart from all that though, since I was young I have been fascinated with sex and all the variables and forms that it takes........so I guess my hobby has literally turned into my passion!!

As for your question...... you arent alone, many, many men feel the need to have sex with different women all the time.........men are hardwired differently from women - women need to be loved and nurtured, to have the emotional side of their well being taken care of, whilst men are typically more concerned with procreation and (to put it bluntly!)"getting their rocks off". You guys are very physical creatures (thats not to say some of us women arent too!) and this is how you find release. Are you in a relationship at the moment? Do you find it hard to stay faithful to one person - those are questions that need answering more than the one you have asked! If you are not in a relationship and you stay faithful when you are, then I dont really see that you have a problem - as long, of course, as you USE A CONDOM and stay safe!

Kind regards,

Katy

Advice for Snooker

Hi there

I am a mid 50s guy with a lovely partner who is tired most of the time and not really interested in sex most of the time. We have been together for 16 years now and I am worried that I am becoming a sex addict and have been worried about this for a while and spend a lot of time of dodgy websites. How can I control myself?



Hi Snooker



Thank you for contacting me!



I guess the first thing I want to say (and this might sound obvious!) is have you spoken to your partner about her reduced sex drive? This could be caused by a myriad of things - anything from stress, to depression, or even the menopause.....try to get to the root of the problem with her.



I assume when you say "dodgy websites", you mean porn sites? Well, this is perfectly normal for many men - does your partner look at these sites with you, or is it something you do on your own, without her knowledge ( in which case, it it guilt that is making you worried?) How much time are you spending on these sites? Is it an hour a day (which is perfectly fine) - or is it starting to consume all your spare time?

I do feel from your email that you are worrying more than necessary - if you have a higher sex drive than you partner, then it is obvious that you are going to think about sex more than you might normally as your needs are not being met at the moment.

Have you tried giving her a cuddle and not pressuring her for more - just letting her know that you love her and making her feel wanted without the sex part - often when one partner wants sex and the other doesnt, it can lead to a vicious circle - man wants sex=woman doesnt=man asks for more sex=women feels pressured=woman wants even less sex!!

Please speak to your partner about your worries - communication is always the key!

If you need to talk some more, then please do not hesitate to contact me.....

All the best

Katy