4 somes - a good idea?

Okay, so here is todays sex query from a REAL client - we shall call them KS

Hi. A friend of ours was telling us how much she wanted a 3some. Her bf also did but obviously both of them wanted the extra person to be the opposite sex. Next day after being involved in the arguement we shared the same views and thought everyone would be happy if we just had a 4some. We shared the idea and everyone was up for it except our friend who's gone off it and won't say why. She cant be nervous about being naked round us as we always call in on her in birthday suit. So my question is why has she changed her mind and gone against the idea of ever having 3 some or more and is there a chance we including her bf can help reverse her mind? thanks

Dear KS,

Thanks for your enquiry!!

It sounds to me like you friend has a serious case of cold feet!! Whilst the idea of her having a 3 some, with her BF and another bloke sounded attractive to her - apparently the idea of having a 3 some with her BF and another lady didnt!!

For this very same reason, I dont think that she is going to be up for having a 4some either - this isn't anything to do with her shyness over being naked in front of you (she has already proved she is OK with that!), I believe that it is more to do with her BF being "involved" in the act with another woman.

I really can't see her changing her mind on this, to be honest, ESPECIALLY if you are planning on including the BF - I think her reluctance to see him with someone else is the reason for the "cold feet". Its probably for the best if you and your partner seek a 4some with another couple, where BOTH of them are open to the suggestion.

Good luck and please dont hesitate to get back in touch if you need any further help.

Kind regards,

Katy

Snooker wants NSA - my advice.....

Thanks for the reply I am sure I can work this out but meantime do you see any problems if I have NSA sex???

Dear Snooker

If you partner consents to this, then no, not a problem - BUT if you go behind her back, you will end up feeling even more guilty - and you are risking your relationship....is it worth it??

Sex tip - and changes!!

Hi peeps - have been a bit quiet today - been doing a photo shoot for my new column - i'll let you read all about that later....!! In the meantime - here is my sex tip of the a day..and a little announcement - I have been so busy with my new column that I am going to publish some of the questions I receive on here - dont worry -as ever its always COMPLETELY confidential, but from tomorrow, you can see some real-life problems that people have been having and my suggestions to help them overcome them - as you all know by now, im not shy and im only too willing to help-as ever get in touch hotwet666@hotmail.com if you want some free advice and in the meantime - enjoy my sex tip (why not put it into practice tonight!!!)

Bye for now bb's

HOT SEX TIP
The Backstairs Boogie -- Kneel in front of your partner at the landing of a staircase, both of you facing the stairs, your bodies meshed tightly. While you reach up and hold on to each side of the staircase for support (or to the stairs themselves), he holds your hips and penetrates you from behind.

A bit of titillating reading...!!

Using your fingers to tease her clit.....

Using your fingers to please her....

Probably the most common mistake men do when stimulating women's clits with their fingers is when they imitate their penis stimulation. When it comes to her clit, hard stimulation can ruin her pleasure. First of all, explore her genitals, finding her clitoris, her labia and the opening of vagina. Do not start right with clitoral stimulation, give her some time to build up the arousal

Something for the weekend!

TODAYS HOT SEX TIP!



When between her legs, just as you appreciate her licking more than just your penis, she’d like you to go for more than her clit tip. Run your tongue around her clitoral head, concentrating on the 10 o’ clock and 2 o’clock marks on either side, and then gently slip your tongue beneath the hood, you’ll have her moaning!


The best way to pull this off is to have her straddle your face as you lay on your back - she can lean into the headboard so she can drive the action and be in charge.

Its not the size of your penis.....its what you do with it....

I know that many of you guys worry about the size of your penis - although, in my experience, having a big cock doesnt necessarily make you the best lover.......but still, for those that need some help getting over this emotionally, heres my info on making your cock larger......

Stretching is probably the best known penis enlargement method, and has bee n the most commonly used over time. Grasping the base of your penis and then gently force the hand towards the head of the penis, causing the whole member to swell under the increased blood pressure. The penis should never be fully erect (this is NOT masturbation) - it must be partially flaccid in order for the tissue to stretch.
A common regime might involve stretching only 20 – 30 minutes per day, two or three days in a row, with a rest day taken before starting again. Over-rubbing can result in soreness, and excessive abrasion in the shedding of skin from the penis; these conditions can be alleviated by using a lubricant during sessions. If bruising occurs, take a couple of days off, and wait until the penis fully heals before continuing.

Another Sex tip

Sex Tip - Ladies - take oral sex to a whole new level by caressing his arse cheeks as you're going down on him. Have him lie on his back, his knees bent and spread apart. Slide your hands under his bottom, pumping your fingertips into his skin gingerly. Then take the tip of his penis into your mouth, sucking him in and out at the same speed as your fingers are pumping his backside

Greetings All!

My name is Katy and im not shy!

Its a good job really, coz my day job is writing a sex column for womens magazines (anonymously) and also writing sex books. I deal with many subjects day to day that people obviously feel shy about - but they would be surprised how many are dealing with the same problems and issues that they are .....

Hence my blog........I want to make it informative, witty, HONEST and supply you with information and tips to make your sex life better than ever!!

Please feel free to comment - the more the merrier and if you email me, I will be sure to get back to you.

Have fun peeps and please, enjoy my sex tip of the day (literally!)...

SEX TIP OF THE DAY

Proper hip movement - Guys - rock her world! Once you’ve placed your penis as deep inside her as you can, grind your hips in a spiral fashion -- like a screw -- and you’ll be sure to hit the hidden parts of her clit that give her 90% of her orgasmic sensations, with the little pearl being only the tip of the iceberg. This will not only increase sensation for her - but also stimulate you more than just the traditional thrusting method.......im getting wet just thinking about it.......