Its a BIG sex chat today, my darlings - it covers a lot, but its important to talk about.....MASTURBATION

Experts say that just about every man who can masturbate does -and theres no reason why not! You don't need an expert to tell you that solo sex feels good, relieves stress, and is a great sleep aid. But here are five things you may not know about your hand job...

1. There's no such thing as "abnormal" masturbation.
Men often wonder if there's something abnormal about the way they masturbate. But experts point out that men show great variations in both frequency and technique.

2. Masturbation is very safe -- but not entirely safe.
Unlike sex with a partner, masturbation can't give you a sexually transmitted disease. Nor will it subject you to the muscle strains, pokes in the eye, and awkward moments that can come with partner sex. But masturbation safety isn't guaranteed. Frequent or overly vigorous masturbation can irritate the skin of the penis, and less well known is that habitually masturbating face down -- for example, by thrusting against a sheet, pillow, or even a carpeted floor -- can injure the urethra in such a way that urine exits the penis not in a stream but in a hard-to-control spray. (OUCH!!) In certain extremely rare instances, masturbation and partner sex alike can cause penile fracture if done roughly - this is a medical emergency, and it often necessitates surgery.

3. Solo sex can supercharge your sex life -- or scuttle it.
For various reasons, solo sex can be a real boon to sex with a partner. It helps teach men about their own sexual response -- what feels good to them and what doesn't -- so they will be better able to explain to their partners just how they like to be touched. It helps men learn to recognize the "moment of inevitability" just before orgasm and helps teach them how to avoid premature ejaculation. It's also a great coping mechanism for any man whose partner is unavailable for sex -- because of absence or illness -- or has a sex drive that doesn't quite match his own
However, some men become so obsessed with solo sex that they begin to lose interest in having sex with their partner. But experts are quick to point out that masturbation is perfectly OK even for men in a committed relationship. We cant assume that just because a man masturbates that there is a problem with his primary relationship.

4. Certain forms of masturbation can lead to sexual dysfunction.
Experts warn that men who frequently stimulate themselves in ways that don't simulate sex with a partner -- for example, stroking very rapidly or with great pressure or friction -- can develop retarded ejaculation. That's a type of sexual dysfunction in which it is difficult or even impossible to climax during partnered sex.

5. Masturbation may affect the risk for prostate cancer.
The relationship between masturbation and prostate cancer is a bit hazy.
A 2003 Australian study published in BJU International linked frequent ejaculation early in life with reduced risk for prostate cancer later on. But in a 2004 study published in The Journal of the American Medical Association, a researcher reported that "ejaculation frequency is not related to increased risk of prostate cancer." In both these studies, ejaculation frequency included sexual intercourse and masturbation.
In a study published this past January in BJU International, researchers found that frequent masturbation in young men raised the risk for prostate cancer but that frequent masturbation in older men lowered the risk. Sexual intercourse did not affect prostate cancer risk.
The researchers theorize that it may not be the masturbation itself which is increasing risk of prostate cancer in men who masturbate frequently in their 20s and 30s. Men who masturbate more may do so because they have high levels of male sex hormones -- and young men genetically predisposed to have hormone-sensitive prostate cancer will be at higher risk if they have more male hormones. In men over age 50, the researchers theorize, frequent masturbation helps drain the prostate of fluids that may contain cancer-causing substances.

PHEW - well done for hanging in there........as ever, if you have any comments, questions or a problem you need a hand with (NOT literally, lads!) then please email me - hotwet666@hotmail.com. Have a good one ;0)

TODAYS SEX POSITION - THE REVERSE COWGIRL!

This one gives 'bum men' a visual treat. You need to make sure you get the angle right but it's worth it. The woman sits astride the man and faces his feet, to straddle him 'backwards'. She then puts her hands on his knees or on either side of him for support. He gets a great view of her buttocks and she gets great G-spot stimulation. The woman should move slowly in this position so that the penis doesn't bend back too far. This one can take a bit of practise - but its worth it!

Another good way to try this one is to have the man sitting down (ie on the edge of the bed, or on a sofa) and for the woman to ride him backwards this way........

Oral Fun......

TODAYS SEX TIP

When she's about to climax during oral sex, flick your tongue really fast along the length of her clitoris. A few seconds of this and the floor will shake for her!!


Why it works: Most men think of the clitoris as just a little bud under the hood, but it actually extends deep inside a woman's body. When you flick your tongue quickly along its shaft, you're not only covering more territory, you're also creating vibrations that help carry your stimulation beyond the tongue's reach.

How to do it: The key here is to make sure that the clitoral hood is out of the way. Don't be afraid to pull it back gently and then make quick, darting motions with your tongue as far down along the tiny shaft as your tongue can go.

Shallow Penetration

TODAYS HOT SEX TIP!!

Make him penetrate you, only very shallowly to make sex better for you. US sex gurus Masters and Johnson found that the outer third of the vagina is the most sensitive, so deep thrusting isn't essential. Have him 'dip' the tip of his penis into your vagina - it'll feel great for both of you.

Sex tip - and changes!!

Hi peeps - have been a bit quiet today - been doing a photo shoot for my new column - i'll let you read all about that later....!! In the meantime - here is my sex tip of the a day..and a little announcement - I have been so busy with my new column that I am going to publish some of the questions I receive on here - dont worry -as ever its always COMPLETELY confidential, but from tomorrow, you can see some real-life problems that people have been having and my suggestions to help them overcome them - as you all know by now, im not shy and im only too willing to help-as ever get in touch hotwet666@hotmail.com if you want some free advice and in the meantime - enjoy my sex tip (why not put it into practice tonight!!!)

Bye for now bb's

HOT SEX TIP
The Backstairs Boogie -- Kneel in front of your partner at the landing of a staircase, both of you facing the stairs, your bodies meshed tightly. While you reach up and hold on to each side of the staircase for support (or to the stairs themselves), he holds your hips and penetrates you from behind.

Sunday Sex - Slow and Sensuous!

How to do it! - You: lying on your back with legs outstretched and slightly open. Put a pillow under your bottom to make access easier and to allow deeper penetration .With your lover as if he was about to do press-ups over you, he supports himself on his arms and puts one hand on each side of your face. With your hands on his bum, encourage him to make figures of eight inside you.This is great, because this angle of penetration enables your partner's penis to go very deep but it's the figure-of-eight movement that allows him to reach and stimulate your deepest, untouched parts. An added bonus is his penis rubbing against your clit, which is always explosive! Get him to do variations on a figure-of-eight to give you different sensations.

Hot orgasm tip.......

Intensify his orgasm and drive him wild by placing two fingers an inch behind his balls and feeling for a dent (the perineum - a big pleasure trigger). For the last 30 seconds before he comes, massage the spot in a circular motion. You'll blow his mind!! This one works girls - i've tried it myself!

Another Sex tip

Sex Tip - Ladies - take oral sex to a whole new level by caressing his arse cheeks as you're going down on him. Have him lie on his back, his knees bent and spread apart. Slide your hands under his bottom, pumping your fingertips into his skin gingerly. Then take the tip of his penis into your mouth, sucking him in and out at the same speed as your fingers are pumping his backside